Love does not hurt. Physical and/or emotional abuse are not a part of love. Love is not manipulative, it should not be used to get others to do what you want. You should never give in to demands based on the, "You would do it if you loved me!" tactic. Love is an intense feeling of caring for another person. It can take many different forms (romantic, friendly, familial) but it is always about caring. Although it is true that a big part of love is putting another person's happiness ahead of your own this never includes compromising your values or being untrue to yourself. If somebody asks you to do something that you don't want to do in order to "prove" your love they do not love you the way you might think they do. When you love another person you don't ask them to sacrifice a part of themselves in the name of that love. 26 May 2002 You've set up your profile and now you are ready to start mailing, so where do you begin? What do you do if you are spoilt for choice? Chances are you're going to mail more than one person. Before you hit the send button here are a few tips: 1. Keep a record of what you said. Use the 'CC Me' feature on the contact form to send copies of your messages to yourself. This way you'll avoid repeating yourself or getting confused. This could be embarrassing! 2. Make it personal. Try to avoid cutting and pasting the same message to lots of people. A personal message is far more likely to get a response than one that sounds like a telesales script. A good approach is to let people know what it was about their profile that prompted you to contact them. 'I found your profile interesting' just doesn't cut in the originality stakes, so you'll need to be more specific. 3. Don't be a pest... If you mail someone and they don't respond, wait a while before you consider a follow-up message. If you haven't got a response in a week or so, move on. If someone is bugging you repeatedly, don't forget that you can use the 'Block Him or Her' feature on their profile to prevent them from contacting you again.

Love does not hurt. Physical and/or emotional abuse are not a part of love. Love is not manipulative it should not be used to get others to do what you want. You should never give in to demands based on the "You would do it if you loved me!" tactic.